Things to avoid on the first date
As life has started to return to normal, we all are connecting with our lost connections. In this journey, you might meet someone with who you may find common ground and decide to go on a date with that person. It is normal for someone to be nervous, goofy, confused or overconfident on the first date and eventually acting in a manner that might put off their date.
Here is a heads-up for whoever is going on their first date with someone.
1) Don’t Keep them Waiting
The first impression is the best impression regardless of it being for a job or an interview. Don’t be that person who keeps the other person waiting. My advice go and pick them up and drive to the decided place.
2) Social distancing cause of bad breathe
Your breath would be stinking by the number of junk you might have consumed during the lockdown. Advice is don’t eat garlic or onion before going on a date. And if you do, use a mouth freshener.
3) Don’t compare or speak of your past
It’s an utterly disturbing conversation on the date of comparing one with their friends or their ex. The date is about living in the moment and cherishing what you have. Don’t waste your opportunity talking about someone else or your past.
4) Huh! what did you say?
Being a good listener is important to connect more with the person you are on a date with. Don’t go on cloud 7 cause you are on a date, you are gonna lose a chance with that person and come cribbing down. Be a good listener and you might really strengthen the connection between you and your date.
5) Let’s go book a room!
Don’t push your luck too far from ending in a physical intimacy moment, Just enjoy the moment and make a connection. Don’t start or push a conversation of ‘doing it’ or indicating what will you do if you and your date are alone. It works only in movies.
6) Don’t let the notifications interrupt.
If you wanted to use your phone, then why are you on a date? Keep the phones aside and only answer if any emergency. Have a great conversation with your mouth and not your screens. Play a game of whose phone rings has to pay the bill to spice up the date.
7) Give respect to take respect.
Be a pure gentleman or a lady, respect the person you are on a date with, and the person attending you. From the famous scene from “Lage Raho Munnabhai” of how to know about the other person on the first date.
8) Don’t propose plans for marriage.
It’s your first date, don’t push yourself to commitments like marriage or love life, etc. The first date is about getting to know each other in person and seeing the bond towards a future date where you can continue and finally agree on a commitment both of you deserve. Patience is the key.
9) Don’t come in your jammies
It is good to be comfortable in what you wear but don’t be too comfortable showing up in your pajamas! Yes, like every official meeting there is a dress code as I stated before – The first impression is the best impression.
10) It’s a date, not a get-together
A date is supposed to be between two people, getting your friends on the date is the biggest mistake one can do while trying to woo the other person. There is time for everything but your first date should be between you and your date.
Bonus: Go Dutch
Drop the stereotypes. If you are a man, give her respect and let her share the bill. Chivalry is good but if you do believe in women’s equality then you have to act accordingly. Chivalry calls for not asking her to go Dutch but if she offers, then you must agree and feel happy to meet a self-respecting person.
If you are a woman and you want your date to see you as an equal, this might be a good start. You don’t just want to meet a person who can hold a good talk and please a woman but also someone who respects women as well. Splitting the bill is a good litmus test!
And now that you are all set for that long-awaited date, don’t forget that if your date says NO for a second date then it’s time for introspection and not for chasing him/her endlessly.
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